Saturday, May 12, 2012

Infidelity..

Saturday, May 12, 2012
I was about to sleep when I received a call.. +44.. what tha.. it’s close to mid night.. Allahuma ej3alhu 5airan..


“hello”
“hi is this 7anan?” a female voice asked
“Yes, this is 7anan, who is this?” I replied back
“This is Muna”
“Muna who? I don’t know any Muna” I say with absolute confusion in my voice
“Mansoor’s ex fiancé”


I was taken aback by that remark, what the fuck is going on.. that was Muna, Mansoor’s ex fiancé!! She is calling me??. I think to myself, I am not in the mood to play games..



“Why are you calling me?”
“I was just wondering how can you be engaged to a man that I am also engaged to?”
“What are you talking about? That cannot be possible.. He told me about you and you two broke it off long time ago”
“did he specify a reason?”
“He just told me that it didn’t work out, why on earth are you even asking me these quesiotns?”I am starting to get pissed off and irritated..


“I have a question for you, where was Mansoor last week?” she asked
“He was in Europe..” i replied with a certine degree of confusion
“Wrong, he was in my bed!!!” i could feel her smiling as she said that sentence..

By now, I am starting to lose my mind and the sense in this world.. what is this women talking about..


“Listen, you seem like a nice person and a nice girl.. but I just want to tell you that your fiancé is still in love with me and we are still an item, the only reason he wants to marry you is for the public picture, you know his post in the community and what people sees him as, you are only a mistress to him and I am his lady”

“Are you kidding me? What the hell are you talking about? What exactly are you saying?”

“Let me put it for you in simple words so you can understand me.. I heard he got engaged but then he didn’t act like one.. We are always together and he is always with me.. He doesn’t act like he loves you and I know you are only a prestige in his life but I felt like you should know what you are getting yourself into.. every business trip he takes, he somehow ends up in London with me..”

“You are lying” I said, I couldn’t grasp the amount of information she was giving..

“why would I lie, listen, I am not even the one who is running after him or asking about him, he calls me and smses me all the time and he always asks to meet me in my place, if he really cared about you he wouldn’t be sleeping with me a month before your wedding”

A moment of silence passed, there was nothing else I could say..

“Shoofy” she said “I am giving you this information and you can do whatever you want to do with it, you want to marry him, go ahead if you want to break it off its up to you, all I can do to support my words is send you evidence then maybe you will believe me, and the ultimate prove will be you asking him, Where were you 3 days ago?”

“Don’t you have any sense of self respect?” I just couldn’t believe how casually she spoke about her affair with him..

“Hey, he is my boyfriend, in what world do you live in? its called the art of loving a person.. not all of us are backwards and reserved like you!!!! do you really think when he asks to meet me in my apartment we are going to tell each other bed time stories? In all fairness he tried to resist me at first but then again he made the first move”

“Don’t ever call me again”

“I wasn’t planning to, I will just send you what I promised and it’s up to you… Have a nice night 7anan”

“bye”



……… and the line went dead..


*incoming messages*
Screen shots of his number and smses to her

First message:
Baby I need you..

Second message:
I can’t wait to have you..

Third message:
I am in bed waiting, where are you?

Fourth message
*Delete*
*Delete*
*Delete*
I deleted the rest of the incoming messages.. How can all this be true..



Incoming call --- “Mansoori 7ayati”


I pick up
“hi”
Mansoor: “3omri I miss you”
“I have a question for you, and I need an answer” I said firmly..
He sensed the seriousness in my voice and he immediately said “sure baby ask”
“Did you sleep with Muna 3 days ago?”



Deep heavy silence.. seconds passed by as if they were hours..
All he could say was
“It was a mistake”..


Those words felt so heavy yet so light, as if a weight has been lifted off my chest..
I said to him
“We are over and don’t try to call me again”



If miss calls and messages could burn a phone, I think my phone would have been charcoal by now.. It’s been 2 weeks since this incident and he still calls.. Funny thing is, whenever we used to fight before, he would come home and talk to me alone or my parents,, but since this confrontation, I haven’t seen him coming.. he never stepped in my house nor called my parents.. I guess he really has nothing to say..

He kept calling daily and messaging me always, funny what his messages say, here is an example of the many..
“Please pick up, we can work things out”
“Please don’t tell anyone about why we are fighting, keep it between us, let it be our secret and we can get over it”
“My mom cant know why we are fight, please pick up”
“What will the people say if they hear your story, you will be ruining a life, pick up and let’s talk like two matured adults”
“I need you in my life, don’t leave me like this, I swear its one big misunderstanding”
“The other girl means nothing to me, people do makes mistakes, it’s not a big deal”


I talked to my best friend and she says
“give him a chance”


I talked to my mom and she said
“el rijal may3eebo shay- Nothing can make a man wrong”


I talked to my brother and he said
“well, he is a man”



Ladies and gentleman, this is the community I live in.. If I was sleeping with a guy I would have been an outcaste by the community and treated like a disease..



Whoever I talk to, they say “go back to him, give him a chance” oh did I forget to mention that he is so rich?? Like SUPER rich??

What do you think I should do??!!

(Based on a true story that actually happened 2 weeks ago, the girl doesn’t want him but her friends and parents insists she goes back to him and marry him)

14 Voices:

Danderma

Slaima!!! O way3a... ryal eb3ainah jleel el 7aya ele ma yeste7ee!

Ehe kelma o rad '3a6aha... I haven't told everyone still but if you even speak to me once more I'm going to put an ad in the front page of the biggest newspaper with the images I received from ur mona! Shoo!

Laish, nag9a eed nag9a reel? SHalle 7adha inha tetzawaj wa7ed ydoor o y3oor wya el7areem? 7g el AIDS? O bacher min elqahar y7osh.ha cancer? La yoba ako 60 alf wa7da momkin tertha o taskit, khal yroo7 ydawer 3lehom... g63

Shar3an a9lan ma y9eer tetzawejah le anah zaani o elzani ma yetzawaj ella zaniya. Araf ye2refah ryal ma yeste7ee o la ybeha still b3d!

PrimaDonna

Sleeping with another girl during his engagement to another?!

Wow...

And her family and friends think she should go back to him?

I would tell him to shove his money up hiss ass! No sir. If this happened during an engagement just imagine what would happen after the marriage...would he continue to sleep around? and can she bear it? Every girl dreams of true love and marrying that person, or at least someone that would respect her!

This guy shows that he has no respect for womankind, what sort of asshole would go around screwing other women while he's engaged to get married to another!

I say let him go...and let her wait for a guy that really deserves her!

And I just loved your last comment about the double standards of society! In Islam both parties get the same sort of punishment for adultery and where a woman is completely outcasted; a man is simply 'A Man' ...The hypocrisy!!

swera

she shouldn't even ask her family members! 3ama b3eina!

ashkara Allah wanted her to know about this infidelity so she can never be with him & she's asking for guidance?

he slept with this lady 3 days before her wedding!!!!1 what do u think will happen after marriage? there will never ever be trust between them specially her, & if u can never have trust between 2 couples then she'll be miserable!

why does she want this life for herself?

allah weyah, o allah y3aweth'ha! ewalli zen!

Ambrosial

One of the many things that irritates me, and get on my last nervous from our "lovely" (Not) society, is "Double-Standards!" Especially when they go and say:
"elRayal Nagil (shayil) 3aybah" WTF?!

If you wanna look at it from the bright side, this girl "Muna" is a God-send, 7anan should be happy and relieved that this issue was revealed during the engagement, and not after marriage, when they're committed, or with prospects of conceiving. THANK GOD that she called!

I wanna touch upon three comments that that were made by her "best friend" "mother" and "brother" (I'm sorry if the format of my comment is shaping up like an essay lol ;p exams period :s)

"The Best Friend" Mn el a5r, she's not a good friend! shloun tr'thaha 7g her friend! Shnu give him a chance?! This is SICK what he did! it's not like he.. I don't know.. threw a tantrum at her or something. There are girls who are OK with living in a sick/gutting marriage, bs dam ilbnt 3la br el2man, and hasn't officially tied the knot, then her best friend should have a good advice, that favors her friend, or just shuts up, cause "money" doesn't buy a happy marriage.

"The Mother" Seriously? Shnu bntich ma 3ndaha karamah? Malha 3izaht nafs y3ni? Mehi ghalyah 3ndkum? Ma tabun laha elzain? "Nothing can make a man wrong?!" I'm sorry, bs hatha takhalouf fi zmana

Finally, "The Brother" Yaa salaaaam! Bravo, very wise.. 7akeem mashallah.. "Well, he is a man" Y3ni cause he has a **** klshai muba7 o 7alal for him?! See stuff like this makes me fixate more on the notion that "Guys, are dogs!" (majority)

It's not if a girl would sleep around, hell would break loose, its if she even "chatted" with a guy, they'll shower her with flaws!

She should slam the door shut. I mean how will she ever love him? and more importantly TRUST him?! HECK! RESPECT HIM?! Wallah y6ee7 mn 3ainha elmafrouth...

If she values herself, respects, and honors her morals... simply call it off, o bachr allah y3awthiha bli a'a9la7 mnah.

She's the one who's gonna live with him her life..not her best friend, not her parents, not her family. It's up to her on what kind of a life she wants to lead.

Anonymous

Allah y7ibha your friend to have shown her this before the marriage.." Al6ayiboona lil6ayibaat walkhabithoona lilkhabeethat" thats all i have to say.. she has to classify her self if she is a 6ayiba or khabitha and classify him as well and then see where she fits in that ayah!

Nostalgia

ewwww !!! big no to him !!

Maqsood Qureshi

Poor girl.

Karamilah

I'm super shocked.

He doesn't deserve her. "it's not a big deal" once said means it will be repeated million times.

Big NO, ma yswa '6frha, 7ta lo '3ani. Rabi y3aw'6ha ily a7san y7f'6ha w y9oonha

♥●• İzdihër •●♥

I want to chop his balls.

Hope

OMG!! I can't believe it!! & he has the nerves to ask her to keep his secret..
wallah ehya en sterat 3laih hatha mn 6eeb a9elha walla hatha mo kafo..
7lo 7lo.. etha hatha awalha yen3af taliha.. '3ani wala mo '3ani shbtfeedha feeh floosah li bacher she got some sorta STD from him

No matter how much others R pushing her 2 go back to him, she really shoudn't.. that would be the MISTAKE of her life..
trraah msawi shay chayed.. & a cheater once is a cheater for life

Allah bacher InShalla bey3aweth.ha belly a7san mnah elly yestahalha

Yusra Al Barwani

I recommend no, I've seen such thing happened to one girl, her marriage didn't last even 6 months and the man blamed his family to force him to marry her, while it wasn't the truth.

The man's parents went to the girl's parents and apologized, they took the girl's side and were against their own son because of committing adultery and abusing his wife.

If she got married and didn't know that, she won't be blamed for asking for a divorce, but now she knows, if she goes through, and then the divorce happen, people will blame she asked for it and she has to bare it.

Been divorced is worst in our society despite Islam gave the right for a woman to ask for it.

She took the right decision.

r.alsharif

Rayal "may3eeba shay" my eye. She shouldn't break off the engagement, she should kill the piece of shit! Who the hell cares if he's rich?! He's unfaithful, disgusting, and doesn't deserve her! Kalb

Rummy

I am absolutely pissed at this shit! I can't ever understand this community and never will. Why why why?! I would ruin his life just coz he dared to silence me up. And in the end, it's her life and not theirs, let her follow her heart and end it because she wants to.

Rummy

WTH? I will never ever understand this community. Aish he's a man after all? Not all men are scum bags and whoever wants to settle for such people have definitely lost it! Why? why? Argh, if I were her I'd parade it around and fashal him so he never shows face anymore!

Men are not everything in the world, life doesn't stop if you don't settle with one

 
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